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LIFELINE = 13 11 14.

Oh, um. I think the title of this post covers what I wanted to say.


Tomorrow’s RUOK is a big day when we’re supposed to have the guts to properly check in on people we’re worried about. Which is scary, because we’re not sure we have any/the right answers.

(Sometimes we don’t need answers. Just our presence can be enough.)

RUOK shirts off a lot of ppl cause it can be a trigger; it also might not actually do anything of actual use, etc etc. But if its main focus is about getting us to feel brave enough to ask the people we love, then it’s totes worth it.

(Sometimes, instead of asking “are you okay?” try saying “I am here for you and you are loved”.)

BUT. Put the shoe on the other foot for a second. Why can’t those of us who aren’t okay speak up too? I know you’re eye-rolling me right now (and that’s cool) but really. Learning to open up and lay it all out in front of someone you trust is about the most liberating, cathartic thing you may ever do. And it’s cheaper than therapy.

I don’t know how to tie this up cause I could go on and on but I can’t do it succinctly like a proper blogger can. And now I’m thinking that this was just a half baked idea that arrived while I waited for my coffee cool down enough for me to skull. But yeah.

ALL THE FEELS. We have them. We can share them if we’re willing. And if we do, the right people won’t be Judgey McJudgersons about it.

(Anna’s post is well worth reading, yo)

LIFELINE = 13 11 14.

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3 thoughts on ““RUOK day” should be “I’m not OK day”

  1. It is ok to not be ok. And I love ya face off. X

    Posted on 12 September 2013 at 5:09 pm
  2. I have mixed feelings about R U Ok day because I believe it’s a question that should be being asked everyday, not just trotted out as a token on a certain day once a year BUT the idea behind it, if it gets people thinking about asking people more frequently if they’re ok, then that’s brilliant but I fear for the most part, people might ask on the day BUT not follow it up.

    “Why can’t those of us who aren’t okay speak up too?”

    You’re right of course but speaking from experience, you can talk til you’re blue in the face but if no one hears you, there’s not point.

    Posted on 18 September 2013 at 9:34 am
  3. I guess I have to comment because a lot of my not being OK is due to school bullying which has subsequently affected my self esteem like you would not believe. I really wish that our school took more of an interest in such things. I don’t know why it’s so hard to let it go but perhaps if those who bullied me acknowledged their part in it, perhaps it would allow me to heal.

    Posted on 22 September 2013 at 10:40 pm