The other day I was minding my own beeswax up at the local shops, waiting at the lights, waiting to cross the road.

I noticed a guy standing near me who was also waiting to cross the road. Then I noticed that he was recording me on his iPhone!

This is how he was standing:

Just imagine that it’s a man wearing a black jacket and holding a black iPhone. Also, his boobs weren’t as big as mine.

He was standing stock still, with his phone pointed right at me. He was looking down, but his head was at an angle that would have given him a better view of what was being recorded. I cottoned onto what the hell was going on and moved closer to him. I starting eyeballing him and he suddenly put his phone in his pocket and got all twitchy.

Once the lights changed he hotstepped it across the street and I started charging after him. Not that I knew what I was going to do – and not that I had any actual reason to suspect him, except that he was standing funny and holding his phone like he was filming for a Today Today expose – but I didn’t want him to think he was going to get away with it.

He ended up at the nearby pub and I was going to go in and challenge him, but I chickened out because I wasn’t in the mood for being punched in the face. A minute later I walked back, ready to ask him to show me what he recorded on his phone.

But he was gone. And now I’m kicking myself that I didn’t think quick enough to bust his chops when I had the chance. But then I wonder what might’ve happened if I did…?

Did I do the right thing? Should I have challenged him on the street straight away where I was unprotected? Should I have challenged him in the pub where staff and patrons would be witnesses? Did I do the right thing to not actually confront him at all?

Cause I’ve been fantasising that I totally kicked his arse and he never filmed another unsuspecting woman ever again.

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11 thoughts on “iPhone perving, how should I have handled it?

  1. That is so weird! I probably would have yelled at him then and there but I wouldn’t have had the guts to chase him down…
    .-= Kelley @ Magnetoboldtoo´s last blog ..Movie night =-.

    Posted on 6 June 2010 at 10:18 pm
  2. That’s really dodgy. I probably would have said something to him at the lights, but then I am known for my ability to speak without thinking about the consequences first.

    Seeing as he got all twitchy about it & ran away I doubt he would have had a legitimate response for you even if you had confronted him.

    At least you made it known that you knew what he was doing – perhaps you at least stopped him from filming any more people for at least that day…
    .-= Liz´s last blog ..Noice-ities. =-.

    Posted on 6 June 2010 at 10:26 pm
  3. Long time Twitterer (@erkpod), first time commenter.

    A couple of things come to mind.

    Firstly, your boobs are better than his. That might give him reason to film you rather than you film him – not that this makes it right, of course.

    As someone who has filmed in public with an iPhone (mostly streetscapes), I’m going to play devil’s advocate here. Let’s say that he isn’t filming you but the streetscape. In my experience, just because someone aims a camera lens (video or still) in your direction, that does not mean that he is filming you.

    Now if he is following you around and/or doing a bit of upskirting (as has happened) for instance, that is more serious and more of a police matter.

    Ultimately, you have to think about your own personal safety. Ok, the guy MIGHT be filming you or filming in your general direction. But is it worth a confrontation with him, verbal or physical? That’s what you need to weigh up. Accusing the wrong guy of the wrong thing could be very bad.

    Maybe aiming a camera at him might give him the message, too.

    Posted on 6 June 2010 at 10:31 pm
  4. Erk, I was thinking the same thing at the time; what if he was filming a streetscape and I ruined his shot (with my lovely boobs? ;))

    It was his twitchyness that got to me the most, though in reality I probably did the most sensible thing by making it obvious that I was on to him without making a dick of myself (or him, if I was completely wrong).

    I promise to try to keep behaving in public :)

    Posted on 6 June 2010 at 10:41 pm
  5. I would have introduced him to my friendly left hook and maybe an uppercut or two… Perhaps next time ask to see what he has recorded in a friendly way of course and then grab his iPhone and throw it on the ground and jump on it.

    Don’t mind me.
    .-= Fiona´s last blog ..Splattered bugs and burgers! =-.

    Posted on 6 June 2010 at 10:47 pm
  6. You did the right thing and at gave him a little scare, maybe he will think twice next time? OK we both know he wont, but still.

    I personally would have just flipped his phone the bird real subtle like ;)

    Or moved to his other side to see if he turned his phone around or tried to hide it.
    .-= Manda´s last blog ..Cupcake Day =-.

    Posted on 7 June 2010 at 6:42 pm
  7. Oh dear, that’s a bit creepy! Good on you for scaring him! I probably would have confronted/clarified with him at the lights, but I also agree with the above comments in that he may not have been filming you but something else in your direction. A tough situation but I’m glad you got out of it safely!
    .-= Jen´s last blog ..Cosmopolitan’s Fun Fearless Female – Women Of The Year Awards =-.

    Posted on 7 June 2010 at 8:52 pm
  8. I think he was just lucky that it happened on a main road, otherwise I would have kicked in his family jewels ;)

    Posted on 9 June 2010 at 9:28 pm
  9. I would of got my phone out and taken a photo of his face. Safe keeping for possibly any potential ‘have you seen this perv’ police ads on tv.

    Hoping he was just taking a photo of your top or something. I’ve done that before to people. You know.. when you see awoman in most outrageous outfit that you just have to twitpic about? hehe eg: me taking a photo of an old lady in a pink velour pull tracksuit pant outfit.

    Posted on 15 June 2010 at 1:53 pm
  10. I get embarrassed taking pics of random things when people notice.

    Posted on 23 June 2010 at 9:54 pm
  11. I reckon whip out your phone and take his photo. that should make him buzz off.

    Posted on 4 February 2011 at 6:08 pm