Something a bit different for you in this post, guys. I have a friend; let’s call her Anastasia Beaverhausen, for the sake of her privacy. Anastasia doesn’t blog. But I caught up with Anastasia earlier this week and she had a real beef that she wanted to air.

So I offered her anonymity on this here bloggy woggy — and here she is!

Oh hai, Anastasia!

I received an invitation to a child’s first birthday party recently. I was all ready for the fairy bread and assorted lollies that would no doubt be involved, but I just can’t afford a trip back home right now.

But, it wasn’t the lack of impending fairy bread that bothered me. It was the little note that said: “We’re planning on keeping the party low-key to protect [child’s] online/social media privacy, and so kindly request that photos aren’t taken on the day.”

You… what?

This little note does nothing but make me confused. I get protecting your child’s privacy and all, but assuming that everyone is going to upload the photos and somehow tag their kid online? And that this may impact on them later in life? Because there will be proof that they were once a baby?

What about the kid’s grandparents? Do they even know what social media is? Or do they just want happy snaps of their grandkid to put in their album at home?

I don’t get it.

Perhaps it’s the wording. Perhaps they don’t want this child to be seen online before the child itself is ready? But if that’s the case, why not say so? Or even ‘take photos, but ffs don’t put them online’.

So: mothers, fathers, guardians. Am I overreacting? Or do you think that note is as ridiculous as I do?

I’m Team Anastasia on this one. What say you?

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15 thoughts on “Parents: is this protection too far?

  1. Ummmm are they’re a celebrity with a genuine kidnap threat?

    We really need to be thinking of the future – I mean how exactly will there be a collage of embarrassing photos at their 40th if you can’t take a pic of them looking like a twat with a bowl cut now???

    But in all seriousness, I don’t put photos that also have other people’s kids on my private Facebook page unless I know that the parents already put photos of their kids up – if they already do it then it’s open season. And I’d never do it on the blog, obviously.

    Posted on 14 July 2012 at 1:54 pm
    1. I think the culprit doesn’t understand the difference between “taking photos” and “plastering them all over the interwebs”

      Maybe even I’m too relaxed with what I put on my private FB page, hmmm…

      Posted on 15 July 2012 at 8:18 am
  2. Wow… that’s a little… strange. Photos are so important to me and to not have any at all from my daughter’s first birthday would be just horrific for me. And I loved that other people were taking photos at her birthday – I was running around and didn’t get to take many myself and I love seeing how other people see things.
    Definitely think it should have said “feel free to take photos but please do not upload them to social media”. Simple!

    Posted on 14 July 2012 at 2:16 pm
    1. That’s exactly what I reckon! And I’m the type that if I’m told not to take photos…. I’d go and take more photos ;)

      Posted on 15 July 2012 at 8:20 am
  3. I’m in 2 minds about this one. My partner doesn’t want pictures of our 9 month old baby online, nor her name published. His argument being we have so little privacy left why compromise that before she’s even old enough to make her own choices. On the other hand I want to share pics with my friends near and far. The compromise: no twitter, no Facebook, private Flickr and instagram where we control access. It might sound precious, but with so much of our lives online now and in all honesty not belonging to us, e.g copyright, it seems it’s better to be age than sorry.

    Posted on 14 July 2012 at 2:44 pm
    1. You’re so right, not much is sacred anymore!
      My personal FB page is pretty locked down and most of the time I don’t even give people the option to add me as a friend, so for me I feel that FB is (kinda) safe if I was putting pics of my own kids up.

      Posted on 15 July 2012 at 8:22 am
  4. Celebrity child or not, I don’t find it ridiculous at all.

    It’s a simple request from the parents and you should respect their wishes.

    There is SO much focus on social media and honestly you never know who is reading through your updates and the pictures you are uploading.

    Personally I would not say something like that because I’m far more relaxed about social media but if another couple has made such a request I would never go against their wishes.

    If they don’t want people taking pictures of their children then so be it. Don’t do it.

    There is nothing confusing about the request at all, it really is quite simple and should not be over analysed.

    Posted on 14 July 2012 at 3:48 pm
    1. Sure, it’s a simple request, but to even tell, say, a grandparent that they can’t take photos because they don’t want them online seems a bit… strong.

      Thanks for being so honest in your comment Caitlyn :)

      Posted on 15 July 2012 at 8:27 am
  5. What the Flying Drunken Monkey says.

    Posted on 14 July 2012 at 10:22 pm
    1. she’s so sensible that FDM, isn’t she? :) Thanks for commenting!

      Posted on 15 July 2012 at 8:29 am
  6. Maybe it’s the wording, maybe it should have said ‘we are scared of photos of our child being put on line and downloaded by freaks and paedophiles, so please take photos, but don’t put them on the Internet’ At least then you’d understand the reason. I’m happy to abide by parents wishes they just need to present it in the right way.

    Posted on 14 July 2012 at 11:42 pm
    1. Yeah, the wording would have made ALL the difference

      Posted on 15 July 2012 at 8:30 am
  7. I sounds a little extreme to me, but perhaps they’ve had a bad experience, or know someone who has.

    Some of my Flickr folk have had photos of their kids taken from their stream & used inappropriately.

    Posted on 15 July 2012 at 6:45 am
    1. no WAY, really?! That’s scary :(

      Posted on 15 July 2012 at 8:30 am
  8. Interesting, Rah…I’m on team Anastasia too. It’s not the idea I find weird, it’s the WORDING… and the lack of trust. I would probably reply: “Please don’t invite me to your kid’s party if you don’t trust me”.

    I have heard about kid’s pics on FB being used by sickos for stuff (so yes I am careful to only share with friends) – but the point is, there may be a more tactful way to deal with it.

    Posted on 22 July 2012 at 8:04 pm